Are you dimming your light?

I'm feeling called to speak to something that's been coming up a lot lately.

It's the idea of dimming your light so that you don't outshine others.

Do you ever find yourself self-censoring in meetings? Maybe you agonize over the phrasing of an email. Maybe you don't speak up on a conference call for fear of being shot down.

Maybe you've been publicly humiliated for making a mistake, told you talk too much, or warned that you need to be more or less [fill in the blank].

These are just a few examples. There are so many others.

We've all been there.

Embedded in all of them is the idea that you're too _____ or not ______ enough.

And after repeatedly getting the message that you're too much or not enough, you learn to dim your light in other ways:

  • You don't wear that designer dress when the little voice says, "Who do you think you are?"

  • You sit on your idea in fear that it's too "out there."

  • You stop bringing yourself into the office, the relationship, the conversation...

It's all based on the flawed idea that for you to shine fully, another's light has to dim. But that's just not how it works.

There's no finite amount of light. There's no limit to brilliance. We only have to look up at the stars to remember that are 200 billion stars getting their shine on together.

Consider the lighthouse: essential for ships to safely navigate. Imagine a ship feeling threatened by the lighthouse's brilliant beacon!

Think of how many lives you make brighter by shining your full light. Your light illuminates them.

How many miss out when you dim your light even a little...just to appease a few captain-less ships that prefer you take it down a notch?

The world needs your unique light, so shine on.

Notice where you're eclipsing your brilliance. What's one way you can shine a bit brighter today?


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Author Bio: 

Before becoming a coach, Caroline worked in management consulting and financial services. She's made it her mission to help people grow, contribute, and get wherever they want to go.

Caroline wants people to recognize how much power they truly have to define their careers. The life and career you want really is possible once you have the roadmap. Take the first step by downloading her free guide: 4 steps to take back your life and design a career with purpose.

She’s also a tennis fanatic, aspiring Minimalist, FIRE (Financial Independence and Retire Early) enthusiast, and Aloha Spirit seeker 🤙. She loves to share stories from her unconventional life and career focused on freedom, creativity, fun, health, family, and community. If she can do it, you can, too.